My Key To {Long Distance}

I probably shouldn't be complaining about the distance because the longest Steven and I have to go without seeing each other is usually less than two months. I also know that some people have to go months and months without seeing the person they love and trust me when I say that the possibility of us having to do the same is always in the back of my mind. So for now, I'm so grateful that I get to see him as much as I do.

Sometimes I get tired of the distance. When there are exciting things happening in our lives, it makes me sad that we can't be together to share the excitement. When I'm having a long day, I wish that I could see and talk to him in person. I don't like that I have to countdown the days until I see him, and I hate that when I'm with him I feel like I have to make every minute count. If we aren't constantly doing something when we are together, I feel like we're wasting the precious time we have.

Those are the times that I'm cursing the 1,000 miles between us but all you long distance lovers shouldn’t be discouraged. I believe that the distance is a blessing in disguise and I know that my relationship with Steven is stronger than it's ever been because of the miles between us. We have to rely solely on communication to be able to connect with each other when we're apart. We have to compromise, we have to be flexible and we have to make each other a priority. We also have to work really hard to make our relationship work. This is why I'm thankful for the distance and these are the things that have strengthened the love we have for each other.

Steven and I talk as much as we can. Somedays are obviously busier than others and on those days it's hard to find a time in our schedules that we can both talk. On days like these, we mainly text and email back and forth with a short phone call at night. The day following a day like this, we make sure to talk a little longer than normal to make up for the time we lost the day before. Steven and I tell each other everything in hopes of making the distance not seem so far.  We tell each other the big and little things. The little details that we mention are what make us feel more connected to each other's lives.

If I have any advice for couples who are in long distance relationships, it's to communicate as much as you can. Just because you can't always physically be together doesn't mean you can't have a romantic relationship. Voice your affection and tell the person you love why you love them.  

Voicing what we are feeling is what has made my relationship with Steven successful thus far. It's taught us both how to talk about our emotions, both good and bad. Not only does my heart completely melt at the sweet things he says, but we’ve learned to communicate our feelings to each other when we're frustrated or upset. After a while, it’s become easy for us to say what we really feel in a constructive way. The way we communicate with each other now is something that I don't think we would've learned had we been in a different situation.


So, as much as I complain and whine about long distance relationships, I'm grateful for the challenge we have been faced with. Even with hundreds of miles between us, I fall more in love with him every day which is crazy to me because I really love that man today. 


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32 comments:

  1. I thought I had it bad, only being able to see my boyfriend on the weekends because he is away at school during the week. Sometimes we just have to take a step back and realize it could ALWAYS be worse. Thank you for this post!!

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  2. Love this post, Haley. :) I was wanting to make a post similar to this, as well. Communication is absolutely key. I'm happy you guys have that figured out, especially because the first year is always so tricky with trying to figure how everything works.

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  3. I agree with everything in this post. I was long distance with my husband for five years while we were in college and grad school. However, during that time we got very comfortable communicating with mostly e-mails and instant messages. That practice has come in very handy now that he is deployed. I promise that the habits y'all are establishing now will be a huge benefit when you're dealing with deployments and other separations.

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  4. Wow, I can't imagine how difficult it is to be in a long distance relationship but you seem to be doing a great job making it work girl! = )

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  5. I completely agree! Communication is KEY! It's definitely what keeps Timmy and I so close together despite the many miles.

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  6. thank you, this is exactly how I have been feeling... i have been losing patience about my long distance relationship lately.. communication truly is key.

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  8. I love this post! I totally agree. BTW my fiance goes to the Academy as well.

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  10. 7 months into deployment and I totally agree, you have to keep the lines of communication open! My husband might not want to hear every detail of my day with the kids but I want him to still feel like he knows what is going on in the family!

    Stopping by from Walkabout Wednesday!

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  11. No matter how long you are apart it is always hard. Hugs friend!

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  12. I love this! :) I can totally relate with you about making every minute count, which sometimes gets annoying when we want to just chill out. I know Dan and I aren't long distance right now, but we've been there, and it is so tough. Once you make it through, it'll be more than worth it, though... or at least that is what I'm told!

    Janelle

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  13. This post just made me smile! SO so adorable. Love your perspective

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  14. Yep, everything you said about LDRs is spot on!

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  15. It's so great that you can see the positives to a long distance relationship! My husband and I were long distance almost our whole first year dating, and he is in the navy. Going through long distance and deployments has really made us stronger.. I know that we can make it through almost anything now!

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  16. You need to come over to 93 more and hang out with the long-distant girlfriend club hehe, beautiful post little one!

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  17. I am giving you the biggest props in the world for the strength both of you have to keep your love so strong! :):)

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  18. You have every right in the world to be upset. It is hard to be away from anyone we love for any stretch of time. I miss my husband terribly even when he's just on an overnight business trip! It sounds like you have a very strong bond though and that will pull you through the tough times. :)

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  19. Hi lady! What a great post. I am just thanking you for linking up at my blog hop (Let's Be Friends). I am a new follower of yours via GFC! Let's stay in touch- I'd love to work with you more:).

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  20. There are definitely ups and downs in long distance relationships. Most times I tend to think there are more downs, but we must remember the pros to stay sane! Found you through the blog hop!

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  21. Goodness, so encouraging, love your blog! I am currently talking to someone long distance and if things keep going the way they are we will be dating. Thanks for all the wisdom shared in the post. I am looking forward to following your adventures! I am new to the blogging scene, follow me at http://foreverconvinced.blogspot.com/ :) xo-Jess

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  22. Oh sweetheart, I feel for you. I came to France and fell in love with a boy during my study abroad year. At the time we could only see each other on weekends because he lived three hours away from where I was studying. I thought that was tough.

    But then the end of summer came and I had to go back to my home university to finish my senior year. We only saw each other once during that nine month separation. Just so you know, happy endings do exist :) . After graduation I dropped everything, bought a plane ticket back to France, and married that boy. I'm excited to read about your happy ending in the future!

    Bisous (kisses) from France!
    Patricia
    The DIY Frenchie

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