Saying {Goodbye}...The First Time Around

I'm back!! For good, I promise. It's been a crazy and insanely fun past 3 weeks with S being home. I seriously love that guy! I've missed blogging a lot, but I couldn't bring myself to sit down and try to blog creatively while there was a handsome man asking me to do fun things all of the time...hence my leave of absence! 


As always, the goodbye sucked. It never really does get easier. So, I thought that I'd do a little throwback to the first time that Steven and I had to say our first goodbye before he left for BCT. I figured that this sappy post would give a little backing to how much his leave meant to us because it's been the longest we've been together consecutively in over a year! It was flippin' awesome, to say the least. 



So, without further adieu, here's the worst goodbye I've ever experienced: 
(Okay, so it wasn't that bad but I'm currently suffering from the oh-yeah-I'm-in-a-long-distance-relationship-and-I-forgot-about-that-whole-thing-when-he-was-home blues so I'm truly sorry if I'm depressing!) 



A little over a year ago, I said goodbye to my best friend before he left for basic training. I'll never forget the look we gave each other as he got in his car and drove away from my house, both of us with tears in our eyes.

I had known that it was going to be hard, but saying goodbye to the person you love most isn't really something that you can prepare yourself for. I was so happy that he was getting this great opportunity at the Academy and I was so proud of him for all that he'd worked for to get there, but I was devastated that he was leaving. Our relationship up until that point had been close distance and the longest I had gone without seeing him was 10 days. I laugh at that number now but at the time, 10 days felt like an eternity. We would be going 10 weeks without seeing each other and I had no idea what I was going to do without him. 



After dragging out the inevitable and being overly dramatic, we finally managed to say goodbye. And you know what? We lived. Although it seemed like our worlds were tumbling down, they didn't. Yes, we were sad for a while after that goodbye. Yes, somedays I hate the distance between us. But I know that this is what is meant to be. I know that because we chose to be independent of each other and follow our own dreams, our relationship is that much stronger. Somedays I do wish that he was there to give me a hug and cuddle with me on the couch, but there's never a day when I think the distance between us has a negative effect on our relationship. This long distance has brought us closer than I could have imagined. We've learned how to communicate and how to trust. The days that we do get to spend together are the sweetest. I love Steven more now than I ever have before. It's not hard for me to be in love with a man who lives 1,000 miles away. I am so grateful for the relationship that I have with my man. I know that I will fall more in love with him everyday, no matter where we both are. 


The man behind all these girly emotions...
P.S. I'm obsesssssed with the Rhonda Designs App! 
 



12 comments:

  1. I'm so glad you had a great time during his leave! :) And look at how far you two have come already -- it's SUCH a great feeling after you conquer that first year! Congratulations for making it through the toughest one! :)

    Janelle

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    1. He sent me an email yesterday and it said C3C and it was the best feeling to see that number! Hehe! Only one more year for you...sooo exciting!! :)

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  2. You two are so precious! Thanks so much for stopping by my blog- excited to be your newest follower and read more from you! Goodbyes are so hard, but you've already come so far!

    XOXO
    Chelsea
    anchorsaweigh-ouradventure.blogspot.com/

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    1. Yay! So excited to have ya here :) And thank you!

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  3. Haley I absolutely LOVED this post! You could not have said it any better! It's amazing how much stronger your relationship becomes over the course of that first year. So glad that you enjoyed your leave together and congratulations on being done with the hardest year :)

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    1. Thank you!! I was following your instagram and you and your man looked like you had a great time as well! Are you going to Parents' Weekend this year?

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  4. Haley I love this more than words can say! Like you have stated you learned how to communicate and how to trust and those are the two hardest things in a relationship, even when you spend every single day together.

    Keep it going girl, you two are soooo meant for each other!

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  5. I guess 'tis the season for leave! I just said goodbye to my soldier for another six months - and it was so much harder than saying goodbye at the beginning of the year tour. Who ever said it gets easier with every goodbye is lying! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    -Rachel
    The Professional Army Wife

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    1. Aww :( Goodbyes really are the worst! I hope that you had a good leave with your man :)

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  6. Having gone through every kind of long distance the Army has to offer, I know you'll get through this! And it's amazing that saying goodbye each time makes your love stronger and each hello even better.

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